In every relationship we get into different stages. All of us can relate to this, right? When love talks, perhaps not all of us would listen but definitely all of us can relate to it. When you get into a relationship with the opposite sex, I mean the boyfriend and girlfriend thing, a lot of changes happen.
If I am not mistaken, after you commit to be a girlfriend or a boyfriend for a person of your choice, you directly go to the getting to know each other stage. The stage wherein you ask a lot of questions to him or her, the stage wherein you want to know where he or she lives, the background of his or her family, in short, the time where you want to spend the whole day with him or her just chatting around. Right after you know well your partner, you were both ready to be on the dating stage. The dating stage is full of romance, full of spark, the stage wherein you always experience the magic of what you both call as “l-o-v-e”.
While you go on dates, you still get to know more better of yourselves. On dating, you now start to figure out his and her likes and dislikes, the time where you both volunteers to make adjustments in order to understand well each other with all the understanding that you both are entering a situation that needs a team work. After 5-7 months of dating stage, you were now starting to be on another level of your relationship, the “comfortable stage”. For me the comfortable stage is the scariest of all stages that I have been through in a relationship. Why? I’m scared because it’s the time of your relationship that you feel some boredom, the feeling that you both are getting insensitive with each other just because you’re too comfortable with each other’s company. You’re too confident that you will no longer hurt your partner when you throw jokes, you are very sure of yourself that you won’t think before you act of a certain thing.
Being comfortable with each other is not actually that bad, when you are already comfortable with him or her it only means that you both settle on each other’s bad and good sides. However, getting comfortable with each other leads to boredom because you feel like your relationship is already on a daily routine basis wherein you already know what will happen next and what will happen after. There’s no more adventure, no more explosions, no more surprises. In short, the sweetness is no longer there. I don’t know how long the comfortable stage will last for and what’s after that stage, but one thing is for sure, both should make a way to erase the boredom on this said stage on your relationship. A team work is a must.